Ask And It Is Given
This is actually a title of a great book that is currently sweeping the nation in some circles and it seems an apt title for this post which may even appear in serialized form.
When asked by my husband, "what do you want to do for your birthday" I took a turn to the left and heard myself repeat the question with an emphasis on "what do you want". It was so much easier than thinking what do people do when they are about to turn 60 for the first and last time in this incarnation? What do I want? That's a no brainer. I want attention, I want to be fussed over, I want to be celebrated. And really It is the one day (or occasion) when you don't have to question whether you deserve so much air space. Deserve-shmerve, it's my day! SO, I said "I want you to give me a party". Woah! That was so simple and so true.
Now the hidden treasure here is that I am not in charge and have no place in saying how he does it. Such an excellent exercise for me who by nature likes to alter any little gem that I see before me. I trust him completely because I know that he knows me and I know that he is brilliant and can figure this out. Another great thing is that he was initially scared, saying my standards are so high, but I see him really taking it up with his full attention, as if #1 He could really do it and #2 It really mattered.
So far I have had several opportunities to stop myself from getting involved and watched the amazing results.
I will report more as the plot thickens. So far he is inviting a ton of people with an eye towards combining many different groups of my friends, he's being a social architecht. I love that he is using his good stuff on me!!
When asked by my husband, "what do you want to do for your birthday" I took a turn to the left and heard myself repeat the question with an emphasis on "what do you want". It was so much easier than thinking what do people do when they are about to turn 60 for the first and last time in this incarnation? What do I want? That's a no brainer. I want attention, I want to be fussed over, I want to be celebrated. And really It is the one day (or occasion) when you don't have to question whether you deserve so much air space. Deserve-shmerve, it's my day! SO, I said "I want you to give me a party". Woah! That was so simple and so true.
Now the hidden treasure here is that I am not in charge and have no place in saying how he does it. Such an excellent exercise for me who by nature likes to alter any little gem that I see before me. I trust him completely because I know that he knows me and I know that he is brilliant and can figure this out. Another great thing is that he was initially scared, saying my standards are so high, but I see him really taking it up with his full attention, as if #1 He could really do it and #2 It really mattered.
So far I have had several opportunities to stop myself from getting involved and watched the amazing results.
I will report more as the plot thickens. So far he is inviting a ton of people with an eye towards combining many different groups of my friends, he's being a social architecht. I love that he is using his good stuff on me!!
posted by cara graver at 4:46 AM
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